We have both ends of the spectrum here – couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive G Spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee’d the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom!
• Alphabet Position – If your partner is more comfortable with the missionary position, but she is still having trouble reaching orgasm, then this position may help. Again, she should be lying on her back, preferably on the floor or a large comfortable bed.
You’ll spread out across her on your side, perpendicularly so that the two of you resemble a lowercase “T.” Place her legs over your body or have one of them hanging off the bed, whichever is most comfortable, and slide your penis inside of her. At the same time you penetrate her, begin using your finger to gently massage her clitoris. Try to mimic the intensity of penetration with your clitoral stimulation. For example, if you’re doing a slow grind, use slow circular motions to stimulate the clitoris.
• Missionary Position 3 – This is a variation of the second missionary position which allows for even deeper penetration and gives you an angle more appropriate for clitoral stimulation. Again, your partner lies on her back on the bed. You’ll be kneeling above her, but at a slight angle. Take her legs and put both of them over one of your shoulders. Make sure you remain at that slight angle during penetration as well.
• Missionary Position 4 – This missionary position works by keeping the two of you closely connected so each thrust is more likely to stimulate its desired target. Of course, your partner lies on her back and you straddle her body. After you are inside her, she needs to pull her legs tightly together and you’ll need to wrap your ankles around her lower legs. While in this position, you’ll continue thrusting into her. If she seems uncomfortable, you may want to use lessen the depth of each thrust. Remember discomfort of any kind will interfere with your partner’s orgasm.
• Missionary Position 5 – While this technique may not technically be an example of the missionary position, this is the best classification I could determine. This time your partner lies on the bed or floor with you kneeling above her. Now take her legs and raise them up, so you are holding her calves in the crook of your arm. Her butt should now be lifted off the bed and her vagina should be in line with your penis, so penetration will be easier. If it makes her more comfortable, you could slide some soft pillows under her lower back. In this position, each time you thrust into her, you are also pulling her body against yours so each penetration is deeper and more intense. Because of the angle of the penetration, you are also more likely to stimulate either her clitoris or her G-spot which should bring her to orgasm.
• Woman on Top Position 1 – One of the best positions for female orgasm is with her on top usually because she has more control over the stimulation her body is receiving. For this technique, you’ll need to be flat on the bed with a pillow under your butt so you’ll provide a good arch for her grinding motions. She should straddle your body and should be facing you. While she’s on top, resist the urge to begin thrusting into her. Instead, use your thumb or index finger to massage her clitoris. Try to match the intensity of your massaging with the intensity of her movements. Remember the harder she’s riding you, the closer she’s getting to climaxing.
• Woman on Top Position 2 – Another variation of the standard woman on top position gives your partner even more control over your penetration and over her own climax while also increasing your pleasure as well. Again, you must lie on the bed. Your partner is, of course, on top but she does not straddle your body. Instead, she squats above you. With your penis inside her, she moves her body up and down using her legs. The tightened muscles in her pelvic area mean you’ll have a more pleasing sensation, plus the up and down motion will provide her with more effective clitoral stimulation.
• Woman on Top Position 3 – This is another intense variation you should try with your partner. Again, you’ll be lying on your back. This time she will be straddling your body. Once you’re inside her, gently place your hands on her hips and direct her movements slowly. You want to move her body in the shape of a wide diamond. After she gets the idea of what you want, she can take over herself if she wants or can let you continue to steer the ship. This technique means that your penis is going to come in contact with every side of her vagina and that means you should be stimulating the areas necessary to bring her to orgasm.
• Woman on Top Position 4 – Even with the variations we’ve mentioned above, the woman on top position can become a little boring if it’s overused. This variation should provide your partner with even more orgasm potential, if done correctly. After you stretch out on the bed, raise either of your knees and keep the other stretched out. When your partner gets into position, she’s not going to be facing you. This time she should be at angle, so that she is actually looking past your upraised knee. As she’s riding you, she should be able to use your leg for leverage so its easier for her to move in any way that gives her the most pleasure – up and down, back and forth, circular, etc. Plus, if she leans back enough, your leg will be rubbing against her clitoris and should provide the extra stimulation she needs to climax.